This was the best that I could come up with. Should I have seen this coming. What the "F" are you thinking.
This does not even begin to touch the things that were going through my head when a co-worker came into my office on Tuesday afternoon. "Can I have your number" in the whispery *wink-wink type thing is something I might expect to hear from a stranger in a club. But at work? From someone I see daily, but rarely speak with? Who knows I am married (and I believe to be married as well)? Seriously?
I was in the middle of responding to a blog comment on my blackberry and was completely thrown off guard. One of you may have received a completely non-sensical reply on Tuesday...sorry...off my game.
Here is the back story (and there is very little to be told). I have been working in this chemical plant as a contractor for 8 months planning maintenance shut downs. He is employed by the plant and works in the same building. His group meets in the dining area every morning at 6 to discuss that days work and any issues that may need to be addressed. I go in and get my coffee at 6. Smile politely, say good morning, grab my coffee and off I go. He would occasionally pop in my office to say hello or put his hand on my shoulder while I was working at the copy machine. I am not a touchy feely person, so this bugged me, but at the same time there are a lot of people who do that kind of thing so I just shrug it off. A few months ago, he came into my office and asked how the planning was going and gave me his number in case I needed something. Little yellow flag went up, but I would be planning work that fell into his discipline, so just for work stuff. Never had to use it.
Is this more common than I thought and I am just naive? I mean I work in an industry that is (at least) 95% male dominated. I have had my job for 3-1/2 years. And while there have been some off color jokes - mostly from people I trust and I know for certain they are jokes - I have never had anything like this happen before.
Of course, I called Clint and told him. Very quietly since our walls are paper thin. He laughed and said it was because I am hawt! Then asked if it was one of the "higher ups".
I had to be a smart-ass and reply..."Should I have said yes if it was?"
His actually thought process behind the question was if I need to put into action something to protect myself/job if they had that kind of power. Nope...nothing like that. My job is safe. I just have to suck it up and act normal when I go to get my coffee in the morning and pass in the hall. I am certainly not going to hide in my office because some ass over stepped a line. Hopefully, he will realize my uhhhh...noooo! was a firm NO!
What would you do?
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