Aug 12, 2010

Hand to Forehead Moment

I see no problem with coming home and having a beer - or glass of wine - to unwind after a long day at work or while hanging out with friends.  I recently gave up any kind of drinking more than one night a week in exchange for (hopefully) a smaller number on the scale.

There is a big difference between that and what I grew up with.  My dad would have 2 "tall boys" (16 oz) on the way home and then a 6 pack at home every night.  Most nights ended with him passing out rather than going to bed.

Of the 3 children who grew up in my household, we all came away with different views because of it.  I drink, but am careful to be respectful of alcohol, my sister drinks too much, and my little brother (who is 19) has no desire to drink...ever.

We spent much of our childhood hiding the embarrassment from our peers and teachers.  Friends didn't come over to play.  We went to their houses or stayed outside.

I never want to expose my kids to that kind of life.

I imagine at the moment, some of the teachers and other parents of my sons school may be looking at me or my husband the way I saw those in the know look at my parents.

Christian lost a stripe on his belt yesterday (he attends a karate pre-school).  The reason...during class, while repeatedly trying to get his attention, he kept yelling "I like beer!"  and "Beer Pong is cool!"  Over and over again.

Regretfully, yes, he knows what beer pong is.  We were at a family barbecue/baby shower.  The kids were in the pool and the men were bored.  The second they gathered around the table, the kids got out of the pool to witness the excitement.

Just to clarify - my children have never had an alcoholic beverage in their lives.

I am so embarrassed.


MommyLovesStilettos said...

I can totally relate. I grew up with an alcoholic father and my daughter's father is an alcoholic. I don't see a problem with having a beer or a glass of wine at home in front of my kids but I will NEVER ever be drunk in front of them.

I would be embarrassed too, but you have to admit - that's pretty funny!

ModernMom said...

He was probably more enthused with their game then the drinking. Could have been kool aid my dear! Don't sweat it:)

Jenn said...

I would've been embarassed too...but is it any worse than a kid blurting out an expletive that they heard their parent say? Like someone else said...he probably thought the game was cool...not necessarily the beverage. It'll be OK...and one day, you might just laugh about it!

Salt said...

I agree with Modern Mom...he was probably MUCH more interested in the actual game of it than the fact there was any beer involved. Beer pong IS pretty fun. :)

I'm so sorry he lost a stripe though.

shortmama said...

Dont be embarassed, I agree that it was more about the game than anything.

I am the same way with alcohol because my dad was an alcoholic as well. I never want to be that person

MiMi said...

Don't be embarrassed!!
My mom used to have a preschool and her motto was: "Parents, if you don't believe what you hear about us, we won't believe what we hear about you."
And also, I mean, come on, kids are going to know what beer is if they around people who drink it. And teachers have to know that it doesn't mean that you have it 14 times a day or something.

Evil Twin's Wife said...

I agree - the game was the draw for him. It just happened to be beer as the beverage.

Anonymous said...

As others have said, the game was the draw. But still good to protect these little ones, especially since you have had such a bad experience with it.

Aunt Becky said...

Oh dude, totally not your fault. It's okay. Kids are just...idiots sometimes. It's okay.

Amy said...

You should not beat yourself up over this. Kids are going to say things to embarass you. Just sucks that this time you might have gotten a judgemental look from others. Screw know the truth!